I often wonder if I am
the ONLY single lady in this world who absolutely despises the dating
scene. During my Jr. High and High school years, I was not interested in
dating. I have always been strong-willed, independent, and free spirited.
Dating someone at that time in my life was not something that I cared to
do. After graduating high school and moving to Charleston I thought the
normal thing to do was test out the waters in the dating pool.
Ladies, let me give you
a few tips through my experience of dating:
DO NOT let one of your
professors set you up on a blind date with their nephew. If their uncle is
known as the player, and the nephew shows some of those same qualities. Say NO!
As the saying goes, "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree."
This one is a
no brainier for most but if you are anything like the young me
thinking you can change the world and everyone in it, you might have found
yourself in this situation. When a guy in your class singles you out
among all the other girls and picks on you, it's not because he doesn't like
you, it's because he DOES like you. You would think that 18 and 19 years
old, those games would stop but they don't. Then when the day finally
comes that he gets the nerve up to FINALLY ask you out on a date...JUST SAY NO!
Especially knowing that he is a KNOWN pothead. You cannot change
him. He will most likely come to pick you up for your date high. No
joke. It happens.
When you are in the gym
getting your workout on and a guy approaches you. Run. Sure, it may
be flattering that a guy would be interested in you when you look at your worse
because let's face it, hair up in a messy bun, sweaty and no make-up is NOT
attractive. So feeling like you could conquer the world because
you sparked someone's interest when you look like poo; you decide to give them
your number. Oh, let me add that you work at this gym so basically you
just gave your personal number to a MEMBER. You find out this guy is a
pilot in the Air force and you know you can't turn down a man in uniform.
Especially someone who flies a plane. It doesn't take long to make
a date with this guy. Then after finally coming back down to reality, you
start thinking to yourself...well if he is already a pilot in the Air force
that means he had to serve time first, then at least have 4 years of college
behind him,you begin to wonder...how old is this guy? So knowing that you
are capable of looking him up in the system at the gym (because you do work
there) you find out he is 30 years old! For someone who had JUST turned
20...30 seem like a grandpa. But you already said you would go on a date,
so you do. I am here to tell you...just because you agreed to do
something does NOT mean you have to follow through. That is what texting,
Facebook or email is for. You could get out of a date without ever having
to speak to him again. Long story short, you go out with him, you have
the most awkward time of your life, he seems to think you are totally into him
and ask you out for a second date. Feeling bad for him and not having the
courage to say no, you say yes and end up going out with him on 2 more dates!
You would think after turning him down from trying to kiss you 4 times
over the past 3 dates he would get the hint. Instead, he thinks it's time
to move to the, "next level." That is when you have a freak out
moment in the middle of the restaurant and explain to him that he is just too
old and you are not interested in him. Of course you say it a bit nicer
than that. And his response is, "wow, I feel like you just stabbed
me in the back." You finish eating in awkward silence then leave the
restaurant and have the LONGEST car ride home. Ladies, do not let this be
you. I am trying to save you a lot of stress and anxiety.
Just when you think that
you are so over dating, you meet a guy at church. Ladies, JUST BECAUSE
YOU MEET A GUY AT CHURCH DOES NOT MEAN ANYTHING! After 3 weeks, he
finally decides to ask you out. You say no. He is
a persistent guy so the very next week he asks again. Once again
you say no but in the back of your mind you are hoping he will ask again.
Every girl likes to be pursued. Next week rolls around and he ask
again. You say no yet again. He then says okay, why don't we just
grab coffee? As friends. I will not come pick you up. We will
not call it a date. We can meet at Starbucks and have a casual
conversation. You finally break down and agree to casual conversation and
coffee with this guy. So that day comes around and you go meet up with him
for coffee and conversation...remember, it's not a date. You get your coffee,
sit down and start talking. The next thing you know, you look at your
watch and realize 3 hours has past! You are thinking, wow...this only
felt like 30 minutes! You go home that night, still on cloud 9. You
decide it's time to stalk his Facebook because any smart girl would check out a
guy’s Facebook to find out more about him. You start going through his
pictures and come across wedding pictures. Then all of a sudden, it
finally dawns on you that you are looking at HIS wedding pictures that were
only dated a year ago!!! Your heart immediately sinks. You grab
your phone and without giving much thought, you send him a text saying,
"You have a BEAUTIFUL bride! Loved your wedding pics on Facebook :)"
Ladies, if he is a charmer (which he was) RUN far far away! It's
the charmers that will suck you in!
All of you single ladies
out there...if you have had similar issues in the dating world, you are NOT
ALONE! I understand. These little blurbs of stories don't even tell
half of what went on these dates!
I am going to do a
follow-up post on what I believe the dating world should look like as a Christian.
I thought I would give you a good laugh first :)
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