I am known to be very honest and vulnerable in my writings. I do this because I want other people who may be going through similar feelings or situations to know that they are not alone. As I have said before, life is hard. I'm here to do life with you through my writing.
Not long ago, I told one of my dear friends that I have thought to write on my mirrors, "you are beautiful." I wasn't saying that to sound conceded, I was saying it because it's a daily struggle to for me to actually believe that. I also need to go on to write, "you are worth something, you are smart, you can do anything you set your mind to do, you deserve nothing but the best." I'm sure by now, you see a pattern. If you're thinking that I struggle with confidence issues then you are absolutely correct. I am very good at telling other people how beautiful, smart, that they deserve nothing but the best but when it comes to me...I struggle with it. I have been told that I can't take a compliment. Ever since I was a little girl, I struggled with confidence. I was always chunkier than my friends. I went through a phase in elementary school where all I wore was wind suits. (You can tell I grew up in the 90s.) While all of my friends had their little boyfriends in elementary school through high school....I stayed clear away from the boys. I made people believe that I didn't need a boyfriend and simply wasn't interested. But deep down, it was my insecurities. I made myself believe that no guy could possibly like me.
I'm not writing this blog to gain sympathy. I'm simply writing this because I know that I am not alone in feeling this way. Last night, I had a conversation with a very dear and close friend of mine. She expressed to me how important she believes the power of words are to people. She said that this past year she has really focused on uplifting people and being positive in their life. I lived with this wonderful lady for two years and let me tell you...if you ever need an ego boost...she can do it. In my opinion, she has always been amazing at uplifting people and pointing out their positive traits. She knows all the deep, dark, dirty secrets of my life but she is sure to point out only the positive.
I think that it is crucial for us as human beings to have this mentality that my friend has. Where she makes it a priority to be uplifting to everyone around her. I do believe girls are the absolute worst when it comes to tearing girls down. We are so critical of each other and it all stems from our own insecurities. I believe that it is so important for ladies to encouraging and uplifting towards each other. Confidence is a struggle for many people but the power of positive words can make a world of difference in someone's life.
So if you need to write all over your mirror, "you are beautiful, you are smart, you can do anything, you are worth something, and you deserve the best" then do it. But I also encourage you to do the same to your friends, peers, co-workers. Words can truly change someone's life.
Not long ago, I told one of my dear friends that I have thought to write on my mirrors, "you are beautiful." I wasn't saying that to sound conceded, I was saying it because it's a daily struggle to for me to actually believe that. I also need to go on to write, "you are worth something, you are smart, you can do anything you set your mind to do, you deserve nothing but the best." I'm sure by now, you see a pattern. If you're thinking that I struggle with confidence issues then you are absolutely correct. I am very good at telling other people how beautiful, smart, that they deserve nothing but the best but when it comes to me...I struggle with it. I have been told that I can't take a compliment. Ever since I was a little girl, I struggled with confidence. I was always chunkier than my friends. I went through a phase in elementary school where all I wore was wind suits. (You can tell I grew up in the 90s.) While all of my friends had their little boyfriends in elementary school through high school....I stayed clear away from the boys. I made people believe that I didn't need a boyfriend and simply wasn't interested. But deep down, it was my insecurities. I made myself believe that no guy could possibly like me.
I'm not writing this blog to gain sympathy. I'm simply writing this because I know that I am not alone in feeling this way. Last night, I had a conversation with a very dear and close friend of mine. She expressed to me how important she believes the power of words are to people. She said that this past year she has really focused on uplifting people and being positive in their life. I lived with this wonderful lady for two years and let me tell you...if you ever need an ego boost...she can do it. In my opinion, she has always been amazing at uplifting people and pointing out their positive traits. She knows all the deep, dark, dirty secrets of my life but she is sure to point out only the positive.
I think that it is crucial for us as human beings to have this mentality that my friend has. Where she makes it a priority to be uplifting to everyone around her. I do believe girls are the absolute worst when it comes to tearing girls down. We are so critical of each other and it all stems from our own insecurities. I believe that it is so important for ladies to encouraging and uplifting towards each other. Confidence is a struggle for many people but the power of positive words can make a world of difference in someone's life.
So if you need to write all over your mirror, "you are beautiful, you are smart, you can do anything, you are worth something, and you deserve the best" then do it. But I also encourage you to do the same to your friends, peers, co-workers. Words can truly change someone's life.
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